“But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.”‭‭James‬ ‭3:17

What a beautiful list for us to examine our lives by!

I know that my gentleness is really hard to keep going, as my sinful nature is kind of harsh, tough, and a little irritable.

Are you a dad that gets mad and angry at your kids? I know that it’s something that I’ve struggled with, particularly as my kids have gotten to the age where they bicker with each other.

Nothing can grab my temper trigger and pull it faster than two kids fighting about really stupid stuff.

What frees me? The way we get working on this is reading verses like this, repenting and turning from the anger, and my wife and I working at at.

Another verse that helps with this is “always be joyful, never stop praying.”

When we are in constant prayer with God, and abiding in Him, we are in the flow of goodness and we tend to stay more aware about staying godly with patience and kindness.

Another thing I’ve found helps me is to read these verses together with my spouse, so that we’re working at doing the same thing in our lives.

Pray for God to give you a patient and gentle heart, and the power and desire to do what pleases Him.

Another factor is seeking peace in our family and around us, but doing it by serving.

It’s easy to get irritable and non-gentle when our pursuits are disrupted. Whether we pursue a zone out session in front of a TV, a time to drink alcohol, a quiet ride to and from the grocery store, or intimacy with our spouse; when we have the heart of a servant, we tend to be more gentle and less irritable.

Notice that God’s way is also full of the fruit of good works and peace. We can be much happier if we cultivate and try to do good works to those around us.

Nothing is more fun or satisfying than when you add value to the lives of others through good deeds.

I know I struggle every day with being like this verse, but with God I’m able to have it more and more each moment.

A life that abides on Christ is full of the fruits that God’s Holy Spirit produces,

  • Love
  • Joy
  • Peace
  • Patience
  • Kindness
  • Goodness
  • Faithfulness
  • Gentleness
  • And self control.

Those are the greatest things in life, and having them along with eternal salvation is possible by placing our faith and trust in Jesus as our Lord and savior.

Folks, I’ve studied this from the perspectives of science, theology, philosophy, and reason, and I assure you that the most probable reality in this world is that God’s creation, as described in the Revelation of ancient writings, happened.

God created us for His glory, to be in relationship with Him.

All the revelations He’s made through the ages points to the one command as the prime instruction and rule:

Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, strength, and love your neighbor as yourself.”

This commandment means we will believe that God exists, and that He rewards those who seek Him – and we will seek Him!

Talk to God, turn to Him, and start to learn about Him and His ways by reading the Bible. The New Testament is the story of Jesus coming and paying the penalty for our sins so we can stand justified before God by our faith – it’s authored and describes the years 0-90 ad or so.

Read it, and reach out to God in faith – then put on God’s ways over your own, and I promise goodness and mercy will follow you.

Yield to others

Another helpful idea in this verse is to yield to other people.

There’s a verse in Corinthians that tells us to “bear with one another, making allowances for each other’s faults because of our love.”

Yielding to other people has become rare in America today, and the mode in culture is a brash, bold and belligerent entitlement from all sorts of perspectives.

If we are to be like Christ, to experience a deeper dullness of Him, we need to die to our “rights” and “pick up our cross.”

Jesus modeled this idea of “being-with” each other, or yielding in the most profound way. Jesus was God, He deserved honor, praise and glory, and yet He came here to earth and served us.  He sided for our sins, took the position to be killed on a criminals cross, He was abused and cursed by people – when He could have caused the fabric of the cosmos to unwind at His very word.

We should notice Jesus’ way of servanthood, patience, yielding to others, bearing with each other and forgive each other’s faults.

When we do this, we are peacemakers!

If you ever need to talk about faith, please reach out on this site and I will pray for you and help you.


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